AI™ Article: Making Changes in (No) Time

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Making Changes in (No) Time
Our beliefs about change itself, affect the speed
and nature of the process we’ll experience

By Dr. Fern Kazlow

Which of the following do you believe are true?

1. It takes 21 days to break a habit.
2. How long it takes to change depends upon your motivation.
3. You need willpower.
4. Change is painful.
5. The longer you have a problem, the longer it takes to change it.
6. It’s harder to change an emotional than a physical problem.
7. It’s harder to change a physical than an emotional problem.
8. Fear motivates you to change.
9. The harder you work at changing or overcoming your
problem, the more success you’ll have.
10. It takes one month of natural healing for each year
you have had a problem.

Whether you believe change happens quickly or slowly, frequently or rarely, you usually find out that you are absolutely right! That is: what you believe about how changes will occur, sets the stage for the creation of your personal reality. Your own thoughts project a time-line for changes to be played out into the future.

We wish for a quick change to certain problems, but underneath that wishful feeling we really don’t believe it’s possible to undergo a swift and lasting transformation. In the end, we create a reality that exactly matches our thoughts, in the time-line projected by them.

Create new ideas about the process of change

From the physical to the emotional, many of us have patterns that we’d like to change. We resolve to make the shift, and then procrastinate and make misguided attempts. We focus on what we’re doing wrong, and reinforce the bad habits rather than achieve the desired goal.

For example, Susan is determined to keep her New Year’s resolution to stop overeating, even though it’s the same resolution she made last year, and the year before. She feels bad when she thinks of all the pounds she’s added. Thinking of her previous failures, as well as her mother’s eating problems, she feels discouraged at the thought of this change. It tires her out and makes her feel bad about herself. But is seems that all she can do is think about food and how she needs to change.

Joseph wants to start using positive reinforcement with his children, rather than yelling. He’s tried giving his daughter Tina praise and even points (redeemable for a desired privilege) for every hour she goes without biting her nails, and has seen the beginnings of good results. But, despite his good intentions, he slips back into his habit of yelling at Tina when he sees her fingers near her mouth.

What factors actually lead to effective and rapid change? Think of your responses to the quiz at the beginning of this article, and let’s go over your beliefs to see if we can shift them to better prepare you for the changes ahead:

1. It takes 21 days to break a habit. The 21 day rule has merit if you are trying to change using conventional methods. However, when you learn to work with your energetic patterns, habits can often be broken much more quickly.

2. How long it takes to change depends on your motivation. Motivation is important but it is but a piece of the puzzle. In fact, you may be very motivated and stuck, or minimally motivated but open to change. Also, you can be highly motivated but if your energetic patterns don’t support what you want, the change won’t happen.

3. You need willpower. Willpower is interesting as many people rely on it for their very survival. However, while it may appear to work in the short run, functioning from that standpoint can cause rigidity and eventually burn-out. However, willingness to put your attention on what you want, willingness to do what it takes to create the opportunity for change and support it is essential.

4. Change is painful. Change is not necessarily painful — resistance usually is. When you have correct principles and tools to support change, it flows gracefully and naturally.

5. The longer you have a problem, the longer it takes to change it. While it seems logical and is often in practice the truth, if you are working with the root causes of a problem and the associated energetic patterns, length of time that a problem has existed doesn’t determine the speed of change.

6. & 7. It’s harder to change an emotional than a physical problem, or vise-versa. Whether a problem manifests as a physical or emotional issue has little to do with the speed of change. Rather, it is the confluence of factors that contributed to it and the person being aligned in a way that supports change that determines how quickly transformation can occur.

8. Fear motivates you to change. Fear is often used to motivate yourself or others, but if you get stuck in fear, it may be more difficult to change. It is far more helpful to recognize your fear, deal with it, and work with the positive energies of what you want. For example, fear of becoming ill can actually make your more fearful and ill, and attract other things you are afraid of as well.

9. The harder you work at changing or overcoming your problem, the more successful you will be. Actually, the more you focus on your problem the more you attract the same. You attract what your energy resonates with; you attract what you put your attention on. So if you are trying hard “not to get sick” you are creating illness rather than the health you desire.

10. It takes one month of natural healing for each year you have had a problem. Although working with some systems of natural healing takes one month of treatment for each year of the problem, other energetic approaches can accomplish deep transformation more quickly,

Set the stage for making
deep, fast, lasting transformations

The good news is that you can examine your beliefs and if they don’t support what you want, you can change them. If you resonate with thoughts that slow is better, or people don’t change, or good things come to those who wait –— consider re-evaluating those ideas from a fresh perspective to remove the limitations they create.

Follow these three principles to help you accelerate the physical, mental, emotional or spiritual changes you want to make:

Be energetically strong for whatever it is you desire. Willingness to focus on what you would like to create and commitment to see it through, fills your being with new energies, feelings and ideas that are related to your goal.

Be energetically centered. Prepare yourself energetically to make a smooth, successful transformation. One quick, effective way to become centered and energetically strong is to simply focus on the vertical line going down your body.

Be in an open, non-resistive state, letting go of preconceived ideas about how the process of change should come about. Practice non-attachment to ideas about how long a change will take. You will be freer to move towards what you want and more likely to succeed.

Success stories

Susan considered how attractive and self-confident she’d feel when those stubborn pounds were no longer slowing her down. Rather than fretting about whether she’d feel denied or hungry, she started focusing on feeling attractive and confident. When that seemed like too much of a stretch, she focused on her mid-line or thought about circles, which calmed her and strengthened her energy.

Joseph had the challenge of working on his own process of change while trying to help his daughter overcome her nail-biting habit. He learned that the more he pressured her, the more she bit her nails and the more he, himself, reacted. He recognized the more he was afraid that she wouldn’t stop, the more her habit intensified, and the more tension that was created between them. Joseph learned to create an environment that supported Tina’s own desire to stop her embarrassing habit and have hands that she felt good about. The goodies she earned became an added bonus, and he produced the change he desired within himself as well.

The key to rapid and lasting change is not worrying about how long it will take. Accept what is, while being positive and open to change. Shift limiting beliefs, focus on the benefits you desire. Align your energies to the state you wish to achieve. When your energy is focused on the change, feeling as if it’s already here, achieving your goal can happen faster than you ever imagined!

Dr. Fern Kazlow, Ed.D., is CEO of Kazlow International LLC. A licensed clinical psychotherapist, educator, author, and pioneer in mind-body healing, Dr. Kazlow founded Integrative Therapy and Integrative Action™ in New York City in 1981. She has expanded this work in the Kazlow Method™, providing a pathway to increase your authentic wealth and power in every area of your life.

Dr. Kazlow has served as mentor and consultant to health professionals, entrepreneurs, Wall Street executives, and business professionals. She created the Rapid Wealth System™ to increase your income and expand the riches throughout your life. The Predictable Jackpot™: Secrets of the Rapid Wealth System™ is the first part of her home study program.

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